Should Your Church Ask People to Leave Reviews?
Something about this question makes most of us wince, and it's worth taking that reaction seriously before we talk about anything practical.
Something about this question makes most of us wince, and it's worth taking that reaction seriously before we talk about anything practical.
The Lord's church is not a restaurant. It isn't a contractor or a hotel. The idea of collecting star ratings on the body of Christ feels off, maybe even a little irreverent, and an elder whose first instinct is to recoil isn't being backward. He's protecting something.
So let's start there, and then look honestly at what's actually at stake for the person on the other side.
What a Searching Person Is Really Doing
Put yourself in the shoes of someone considering a visit. They've found your congregation. They've read your pages. And now they're doing what every one of us does before walking into an unfamiliar place: looking for what other people say about it.
Not because they're consumers shopping for a product. Because they're nervous, and they know that often, what people say about themselves, is flattering. They're looking for a human voice that isn't yours.
Now consider what they find. If there's nothing at all, they're left with only your own description of yourselves. If they find three sentences from an ordinary member saying this congregation walked with their family through a hard year, that stranger has just learned something no page on your site could have told them.
That's the real question. Not whether the church should be rated, but whether a searching soul gets to hear from anyone besides you.
Testimony Is Not Marketing
Here's the reframe we'd offer, and we think it holds.
What we're describing isn't a rating. It's testimony, and testimony is native to the faith. Scripture is full of people telling plainly what God did for them.
The man born blind said what he knew, which was that he once could not see and now he could. The woman at the well went and told her town. Paul recounted his own story again and again to anyone who'd listen.
None of that was promotion. It was ordinary people saying honestly what happened to them.
So when a member writes a few sincere lines about what this congregation has meant to their family, that isn't the church marketing itself. That's a Christian telling the truth in public. The only thing that's changed is the location. And the searching person reading it at eleven at night receives it exactly the way they'd receive it over coffee, which is to say, as the most credible thing they've encountered so far.
Where the Line Actually Sits
The discomfort is still worth honoring, because it's pointing at something real. There is a way to do this badly. Here's how we'd draw the line.
Tell your members that if the Lord has used this congregation in their life and they'd be willing to say so publicly, it would help someone find their way here. Then leave it alone. What you must never do is script it, pressure anyone, or make it feel like an assignment.
You want the real thing, including the plain and modest version. A member saying "these folks are ordinary people who took care of us when nobody else did" is worth more than effusive praise, because it reads as true.
No incentives, no favors, no arrangements. That corrupts the testimony and the witness both.
A church does not need dozens. A handful of genuine, specific words from real members is plenty. Nobody is counting.
When Someone Says Something Unkind
This is the part churches worry about most, and it's a fair worry. Someone will eventually leave a harsh word. Maybe a former member with a grievance, maybe someone who misunderstood, maybe someone who was genuinely hurt.
A few things help here.
A public quarrel does far more damage than the original complaint ever could, and everyone reading is watching how you respond more closely than they're weighing what was said.
Something like: "we're sorry you had that experience, and we'd welcome the chance to talk with you about it." Then offer a way to do that privately. Most readers understand that any congregation of real people teaching the truth will occasionally disappoint someone, and a gracious reply tells them everything they need to know about your character.
Every so often a critical word is true, or partly true. If several people say the same thing, that's not an attack. That's information, and it may be worth acting on.
The Quiet Version of the Question
Underneath all the practical guidance is something simpler.
Your congregation almost certainly has members whose lives have been genuinely shaped by this church family. People who were carried through grief, or found God here, or were loved when they didn't expect it. Those stories exist right now, unspoken, inside your building.
The only question is whether a searching person in your community ever gets to hear one of them.
You don't have to run a campaign. You don't have to treat the church like a business. You just have to let the people who have something true to say know that saying it out loud is a kindness to somebody who is still looking.
At Project Go, we help churches of Christ let the real life of the congregation be visible to the people searching for it. If we can help, book a call.
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